Chat Example Three
from How To Attract Women Online
31 Year
Old Woman I Met at a Web Site
Background:
This chat had an odd start. I
insulted a woman in a chat room. I
felt bad about doing so, so I contacted her privately to apologize.
It went from that to wild sex talk, to an even wilder ninety minute
phone conversation.
John:
good
morning
Woman:
no
offense to you, but i really should have known better
John:
it's
silly in here, for sure
Woman:
it's
a last resort to go to a chat room and ask if people know anything.....
John:
sorry,
i simply wanted to apologize for my comment in the chat room
Woman:
yeah,
that was original, never hard that before. i'm just trying to find out if there
is going to be a limit on the tickets this weekend
Woman:
per
person, you know
John:
i'd
be happy to help if i can.
John:
ah...
I’ve heard 2 and 4, but nothing confirmed
Woman:
i
knew it
John:
where
are you seeing them?
Woman:
NYC...are
you going to be able to?
John:
I
am seeing them in NY, as well
John:
but
I need 3 tix
Woman:
how
are you going to get tickets?
Woman:
going
to the hammerstein box office?
John:
and
also need to figure out how the heck to get them
John:
I
can't, in DC on business
John:
I
may send my brother down there
Woman:
what
do you do?
John:
writing,
some advertising/marketing
Woman:
interesting
John:
it's
rewarding work
John:
and
it pays the bills
Woman:
do
you know anything about the Hammerstein?
John:
it
seats about 3,000 …
John:
is
located, I believe, on 35th between 8th and 9th
Woman:
does
it have a box office? i've been trying to call there as well, but to no avail
Woman:
it's
on 34th
John:
and
is gorgeous inside
Woman:
i've
heard it's really nice
John:
i
have not been able to get thru either
John:
they
are for sure NOT making this easy
Woman:
i
know.…it's making it hard for me
John:
:)
John:
well,
we'll have two chances at least
John:
this
show and the US tour following the Euro tour
Woman:
right....our
very good friends are going to see them in London in June
John:
sweet
Woman:
i
can't go
John:
I
haven't seen them in years, so I am rather excited!
John:
and
they do put on a great show
John:
but
the 5 year gap between albums is a little much
Woman:
i
think there where some legal issues that prevented them from recording
John:
hmm
Woman:
did
you listen to A Perfect Circle at all?
Woman:
we
saw them 3 times
John:
yes,
don't like it too much
John:
sounds
like bad Tool
Woman:
what?????????
John:
but
that's just me
John:
hey,
to each his own
Woman:
uh
oh, them's fighting words....
Woman:
just
kidding
Woman:
you're
right, it's not 1960 Russia
John:
even
Schism sounded too... too polished... too clean and produced
Woman:
ok
now....i was thinking about this last night
Woman:
regarding
Schism
John:
i
like the raw sound I am used to from Tool
John:
Schism
is too clean
Woman:
i
was listening to Undertow last night....and yeah, i agree with you somewhat
John:
Undertow
is still my favorite
John:
Aenima
is also excellent
Woman:
like
they're trying a little TOO much to be the "mind-expanding" epic type
music that started to evolve on Aenima
John:
yes
John:
exactly
Woman:
i
know, Third Eye is my favorite ever....so i'm into that...but Schism is, i don't
know...
Woman:
not
Third Eye
John:
what
I like in music is emotion, their last two CDs were laden with emotion, and
Schism is brimming with clean, studio worked sounds
Woman:
and
the lyrics are very repetitive....
John:
yes,
they are
Woman:
and
dare i say.....pretentious???
John:
and
the vocal over-dubs are rather run of the mill
John:
and
not necessary for someone with such an amazing voice
Woman:
but
there are some crazy rhythms and time signatures
John:
no
doubt
Woman:
i
think i counted a 5/4 or a 5/8 in there...
John:
they
are killer musicians, and it's hard to fuck that up
Woman:
i
agree
John:
but
in contrast … the chili peppers californication album is awesome, with no
earth shattering studio sound, just damn good music
Woman:
i
haven't listened to it....i got turned off by their commercialism....
association with MTV and all that
John:
gotcha
John:
bear
in mind where they came from when they started
Woman:
Mother's
Milk and Blood Sugar Sex Magic are two of my favorite albums
Woman:
i
know i know...
Woman:
and
i know it's not their fault....
John:
they
originally toured naked to get media attention cuz they were starving and broke
Woman:
and
people should be recognized and compensated for their hard work
Woman:
and
i do think they have talent...
Woman:
how
old are you?
John:
25
John:
you?
Woman:
31
John:
cool
John:
age.....
numbers
Woman:
i
like you're name...OpenMind......that's one of my favorite things on earth, an
open mind
Side
Note:
In
chat rooms I always use the name “OpenMind.”
It’s the way I try to live, and it attracts the type of people I
want to attract.
John:
I
try, not always easy
John:
but
thank you
Woman:
why
not always easy?
John:
the
tendency to want to prove others wrong, to engage in arguments, to judge
John:
these
things, while normal behaviors, are not open-minded
John:
as
I said, I do my best
Woman:
that's
true....
John:
if
I can make someone smile, it's been a rockin' day
Woman:
to
be open minded is a catch 22....cuz it usually means you're of superior
intelligence, so you have no tolerance for people void of a thought process
John:
somewhat
true, but consider this....
John:
Emerson
once said that EVERY person is his superior in some way, and thus he seeks to
learn from them
John:
if
a guy that bright feels that way, I'm willing to give it a shot
Woman:
i
hear you...and believe me, i always give people a chance.....i'm a lover not a
fighter....
John:
coolness
Woman:
late
for work yet?
John:
you
seem pretty cool... feel free to stay in touch after we conclude our chat:
openmind---@yahoo.com
Woman:
are
we concluding our chat?
John:
no,
we are not
John:
unless
you'd like to
Woman:
no,
not yet
John:
just
wanted to say that it would be cool to stay in touch
John:
after
we're through
Woman:
i
agree (about staying in touch)
Woman:
was
just going to say it myself, you beat me
Woman:
you
there?
John:
sorry,
yes, talking
to a friend
John:
I
apologize
Woman:
that's
cool
Woman:
if
you're busy, i can bolt
John:
i
just sent her long e-mail and wanted to quickly get her thoughts
John:
no,
she's a chatty chick and will be fine without me :)
Woman:
define
"chatty chick"
John:
um … she
doesn't shut up
Woman:
oh....i
thought it was some internet term i was not yet made aware of
John:
no
… lol
John:
being
literal … she never shuts up and types really, really fast
Woman:
i
think i type fast too
Woman:
i
play the piano, that's why....or at least that's my theory
John:
but
you tend to breathe and think before speaking
Woman:
i
do
John:
she
just rambles on
Woman:
she's
young probably
John:
21
Woman:
yeah
Woman:
i
could have been really judgmental, but i stopped to think about it
Woman:
and
i'm not
John:
lol
Woman:
that's
what 10 years will do
John:
FYI...
I am 33, not 25
Woman:
HA
Woman:
i
knew it
John:
last
person I was enjoying a chat with, when I said I was 33, bolted out of the chat
and called me old
John:
so,
now, I just say 25 cuz I don't ever think I'll meet anyone worthwhile in here
and at least it allows me to finish my conversations!
Woman:
that
is funny
John:
and
I don't much care
Woman:
you
don't have to explain. but i could
tell you were older than 25…..too wise and calm
John:
well,
young'n... lol
Woman:
so
does this 21 year old know you're 33?
John:
but
I am your age, and I know the HUGE difference between 21 and 31
John:
yes,
she calls me old man!
John:
but
in a joking way
John:
sort
of
John:
I
hope
Woman:
i've
always loved older guys...even when i was 21
John:
oh,
she won't sleep with me, try as I did
Woman:
learn
so much from them...and they're so appreciative of your youth
Woman:
well
just so you know, i'm married.....but that doesn't mean i won't sleep with you
John:
yes,
well, I was a complete moron through most of my twenties so... I can't complain
John:
huh?
John:
one
sec, let me read that again
John:
okay
… shitty marriage or open marriage?
Woman:
i'm
still laughing at your "huh?"
John:
haha!
John:
huh
… is an apt response to that statement
Woman:
i
know...
Woman:
and
i was kidding pretty much
John:
you
are joking, I take it
John:
gotcha
Woman:
i'm
very happily married....but we do have "arrangements"
Woman:
so
to speak
John:
"arrangements"
so to speak?
John:
huh?
Woman:
it's
sort of a gray area
Woman:
a
don't ask don't tell sort of policy
John:
ah
… I've been in those relationships … quite fun!
John:
in
fact that’s how i prefer it
Woman:
well,
it's hard to explain without writing a novel
Woman:
but
i'll try to sum it up
John:
you
see, I love steak, but every now and then, I also want chicken
. because, you know, steak DOESN'T taste like chicken
Woman:
right…and
i love men, but every now and then i like chicks
John:
just
can't eat steak every day for the rest of my life
John:
gotcha
John:
so
is this "gray area" women only?
Woman:
and
i'm sort of a male trapped in a chicks body…i think…don't be scared, i'm not
pre-operative or anything
John:
hahahaha!
Woman:
i
just have the mentality, sexually and emotionally, of a guy…but better
Woman:
cuz
i'm a chick
John:
laughing
my ass off!
John:
so,
gray area = women only?
Woman:
no…..
John:
aha!
John:
hmm
John:
huh?
Woman:
but
again, it's very complex…
John:
i
can imagine
Woman:
i
always expressed this to my husband, even before me were married, that i did not
believe that monogamy was ever going to be my way of life
John:
cool
John:
I
agree with you, but I have a hard time selling that to women I date
Woman:
i
am most definitely in love with my husband, and committed to him and our family,
but it's not our nature to be monogamous
John:
cool
John:
i
am with you
Woman:
monogamy
is a convention of society, religion, etc
John:
indeed!
Woman:
however,
i'm deeply religious, sing in the church choir, i'm a deacon at my church...
Woman:
go
figure!
John:
and
I like creating my own rules to live by
Woman:
me
too
John:
a
deacon? are you a cute deacon?
this is of course an
important component of the gray zone
John:
;-)
Woman:
cute.....hmmm....that
is not a term usually applied to me....you can decide for yourself...i'll email
you a picture....would you like one?
Woman:
or
several?
John:
sure
John:
several
works
Woman:
what's
the email again?
John:
I'll
send one back
John:
openmind---@yahoo.com
Woman:
hold
on
John:
ok
Woman:
they're
on the way
John:
whoa!
you are way…
John:
out
of my league
John:
lol
John:
ok,
mine's a comin'
Woman:
hey,
had to step away for a moment
Woman:
you
got mine?
John:
yes.
you’re a knockout! sending mine… brb
John:
ok,
sent
John:
man
are you sexy!
Woman:
thank
you....i haven't seen yours yet
Woman:
my
son wants me to make him a guitar out of a tissue box and paper towel roll...
Woman:
any
idea how to do that?
John:
geez...
no
Woman:
i'm
no engineer....me neither...
Woman:
i
rarely am online during the day...and it's even rarer that i would
"chat" for this length of time with someone
John:
ah,
but i am that cool, no?
John:
wow
… dynamite pix. These are racy
… i know there had to be some nudes taken with those last two
Woman:
you
are
John:
thanks
John:
likewise
Woman:
you
like my pics? were you expecting that sort of thing when i said cute didn't
apply to me?
John:
no
expectations
John:
though
I did not expect them to turn me on
John:
sizzle
John:
and,
you are correct, cute does not apply … madly sexy does
Woman:
ooooo
you're turned on?? i like that
Woman:
too
bad i can't help you address that right now
John:
that's
what i'm thinking!
Woman:
do
you like phone sex?
John:
never
really tried it
John:
who
knows?
Woman:
no??
John:
i
am used to real sex
Woman:
so
am i....but for someone with a drive like mine, if i were to engage in real sex
every time i wanted to, i'd be dead by now probably...
Woman:
so
phone sex is a nice little outlet for me
John:
LOL
John:
i
hear ya
Woman:
it
helps me satiate my need for variety, almost
John:
shit,
I'd love to help with your needs
Woman:
how
quickly this conversation has changed......
Woman:
i'm
used to it though.....
John:
well,
it has a good foundation
John:
oh
come on, that's not fair
Woman:
yes
it does
John:
we
had a great non-sexual chat for like an hour
Woman:
i'm
not complaining....don't get me wrong...
Woman:
and
i just saw your picture....surely some naked pics were taken with that one
John:
oh,
many
John:
sorry,
but all my pix of me are on my mac
John:
not
my pc
John:
i
just took more but am waiting to develop and scan
John:
so
that i have some recent stuff on the PC
Woman:
that's
cool....i like your picture a lot....why would you say i'm out of your league??
you're very attractive...beautiful mouth....
Woman:
and
intelligent too.....
John:
i
was kidding
Woman:
good
John:
you
are in my league.... very pretty ... exactly what i tend to like
John:
good
mind, as well
Woman:
good?
John:
great!
John:
that
better?
Woman:
much
better
John:
whew
Woman:
i
made the guitar
John:
haha
John:
well
done
Woman:
so
listen, i would love to continue this conversation, but i really gotta go...now
i'm an hour behind schedule cuz of you!!
John:
cuz
of me?
Woman:
but,
i think next time we talk, it should be on the phone.....
John:
ok
John:
i
can call you – you gonna try and phone sex me?
haha
Woman:
of
course i am.....i'm sure it won't be hard
John:
it
might get hard
Woman:
i
know....if i had a cock, it would be hard right now just thinking about it
John:
hehe
John:
it
was getting a little rise on your pix
John:
i
did NOT expect you to be this sexy
Woman:
just
curious, may i ask why?
Woman:
it's
not a fishing for compliments type thing....
John:
it's
just a nice surprise ... kind of like putting on your pants and finding a $20
bill in the pocket
. you just don't expect it, but when it happens ... :-D
Woman:
did
the 21 year old send you a pic?
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